Happy Sunday Everyone:
I listened to a podcast for the first time 3 weeks ago. I’ve now listened to it 5 times, I’ve taken notes on it, I’ve studied it, I’ve made my boys listen to it, I love it. I think my only goal for this Sunday Thoughts is to have anyone reading listen to it. Link is: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-ed-mylett-show/id1181233130?i=1000649677124
The interview is Ed Mylett and Inky Johnson. I’ll skip the details on Inky, but he was a phenomenal college football player, going pro for sure, 2 minutes left in his final game, was paralyzed on the left side of his upper body. He’s now a speaker, motivator…Easy to say, “he’s another speaker that overcame adversity and now on stage”. I think he’s more than that. Ed Mylett considers him the best speaker he’s ever heard. As I’m sitting here, thinking about what I could write to have you listen to it, I’m not sure….so I’ve decided just to include my own personal notes and leave it at that. I believe it’s worth an hour out of your life. The reason I titled this “Your standard” is him talking about it made consider “what are my personal standards for living my life?” I hope you give it a listen.
My notes:
- Its real now-when I embraced it…”How can i use this”.
- We’re all wounded to a certain extent; you can just see mine….we all share dealing with adversity.
- Don’t take what I can do today for granted. It can all be gone tomorrow.
- tragedy creates bitterness, “i was disappointed”. It wasn’t a tragedy because I still have my life.
- Patience:
- You judge each day by the harvest that you reap not that the seeds that you just sowed.
- There were certain things that came to me in solitude that couldn’t have come if I was moving.
- You have to get quiet so you can hear God.
- Conditional vs. non-conditional-
- Conditional is predicated on situations, circumstances, and what you give me.
- Champions do daily what everyone else does occasionally.
- Character is what we do daily, our reputation is what we do occasionally.
- Character is not conditional, it’s who you are, reputation is conditional.
- examples:
- 3rd string vs. 1st string…how do you show up?
- Down 40 points with 5 minutes left, how do you show up?
- Where is conditional effort showing up in my life?
- Koby example: he went to the next level when he wanted to understand the nuances of the game.
- Conditional vs. non-conditional-I never think about what that person is going through vs. “what is this person going through”…
- Oprah interviewing Mr. Rogers: “Remember what it was like when you were a child”.
- Football Teams: everyone had a different recipe, but the standard was the standard:
- Everybody locked in.
- Difference between an expectation and a standard. Expectation is external, Standard is internal. this is who we are.
- Expectations is what they create, the standard is what we create.
- Process is the voice. post traumatic growth, finish. Give your pain a narrative.
- A champion is built on the other side of i don’t feel like it.
- Look at old pictures and remember how it makes you feel.
- Principals vs. preference:
- If you don’t stand for anything you fall for anything-grandparents
- Self-disciplined-you think about the pursuit, the goal, what you don’t think about is what you need to go without. When you have principals, you know what you can go without.
- What are my principals and what are my preferences?
- ENJOY the process. Be present.
- “Don’t postpone your joy, don’t postpone your happiness, don’t postpone your peace”.
- Chinese proverb “if you want to know the road ahead, ask those coming back”.
- Dad voicemail “your dad is gone”. “Call your mom”.
- How many times I took for granted my dad calling.
- Public success vs. private failure. Earning the chip.
- Am I living my life so when I’m gone my family is going to agree with the broader audience that I was the same guy? This is mandatory.